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Saturday, November 16, 2013

A Good Example of The Summit of self-confidence

You want to be confident and feel confident, but what if you're starting with little or no confidence? How do you get from Point A to Point B? True self-confidence isn't an overnight acquisition. It takes dedication to realize you are a good human being that is worthy of respect and love.

Self-confidence is an attitude which allows individuals to have positive yet realistic views of themselves and their situations. Self-confident people trust their own abilities, have a general sense of control in their lives, and believe that, within reason, they will be able to do what they wish, plan, and expect. Having self-confidence does not mean that individuals will be able to do everything. Self-confident people have expectations that are realistic. Even when some of their expectations are not met, they continue to be positive and to accept themselves.

People who are not self-confident depend excessively on the approval of others in order to feel good about themselves. They tend to avoid taking risks because they fear failure. They generally do not expect to be successful. They often put themselves down and tend to discount or ignore compliments paid to them. By contrast, self-confident people are willing to risk the disapproval of others because they generally trust their own abilities. They tend to accept themselves; they don’t feel they have to conform in order to be accepted.

How to Build Self Confidence

  1. Recognize your insecurities.
  2. Talk about it with friends and loved ones.  
  3.  Bounce back from your mistakes.
  4. Identify your successes.
  5. Be thankful for what you have.
  6.  Be Positive, even if you don't feel the same way.
  7.  Accept compliments gracefully. 
  8. Look in the mirror and smile.  
  9. Fake it. Along the same lines of smiling to make yourself feel happy, acting confident might actually make you believe it.  
  10. Stick to your principles. It might be tough, but if you don't have something you can believe in, you don't have anything.
  11. Help others. When you know you're kind to the people around you, and are making a positive difference in other people's lives (even if it's just being kinder to the person who serves you coffee in the morning), you'll know that you are a positive force in the world--which will boost your self confidence.
  12.  Avoid perfectionism: Perfectionism paralyzes you and keeps you from accomplishing your goals.

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